Grief is not just confined to death or divorce. That’s what my friend Kevin said when we sat down for some deep discussion over lunch last Sunday. He and I first met while serving on a Mexico Mission Trip last fall. Sometimes when you meet someone, you just feel connected. I believe this is one of the inexplicable wonders of being children of God. Kevin recently completed training as a grief counselor and had shared how his own life was impacted by this program a few years ago. He outlined his experiences leading up to his training and how since then, his work office is quickly becoming the drive-thru counseling station. His interactions with co workers support my suspicions that there are many hurting and grieving people, many of whom we see everyday.
Grief And Failed Expectation
I began to think about all the situations that could lead to feelings of grief. Simply speaking, grief in most cases comes from failed expectation. Death of a loved one, grieving because we “expected” them to be with us longer. Divorce, grieving because we “expected” life to have a fairy tale plot. Job loss, failed exams, a bleak medical report all crush our expectations and can lead to feelings of grief. Kevin and I began talking about the many people that don’t have a faith in God and have to walk difficult paths alone. When expectations blow in the wind unmet.
“When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer. Don’t ask questions: Wait for hope to appear. Don’t run from trouble. Take it full-face. The “worst” is never the worst.” Lamentations 3:28–30 MSG
Find Your Space
One of my favorite things to do is to get alone and crank music. Creating a reflective moment while the soundtrack of life plays loudly in the background. It eases my stresses and gives me a chance to wind down. However, it doesn’t compare to a moment of silence, and a heartfelt prayer to the Creator of the Universe. The instruction in Lamentations is to not run but meet our situations head on. Whether we find ourselves in the devastation of unmet expectations or the quicksand of grief. Remember even the worst challenges we face are never the worst.